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  Important Press Release tomorrow - want to take part webmasters and others?

  by Dogpatch in

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  we are planning an important press release tomorrow to coincide with the special talk on sunday, it will be a shocker.

  if you manage a website or are good at pr and email distribution, email me at [email protected].

  we want as much wide coverage as possible and on as many websites as possible!.

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  Oh, I can't wait to see this!!!
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  May I pay for your wedding? And your baby shower? and your house warming?

  by LDH in

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  ok i know it was not just upstate new york that had this problem.

  of all the jw weddings i went to, i can think of 3 that were catered.

  all the rest, the congregation members paid for.

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  Most of the JW weddings in my area are "bring a dish" If the couple are from 2 different KH, the cong where the wedding takes place brings the "warm dishes" and the the other KH the snacks and desserts. My biggest complaints were pitiful music and no liquor, just generic room temperature soda. The worst wedding I went to the bride and groom served PIZZA HUT PIZZA to 200_ people (on plastic plates, of course). I had no idea Pizza Hut could deliver that many pizzas, but 4 guys brought in all in. The bridal party was late so the pizza was cold for all. Again, no liquor and I can't even remember if there was music. Needless to say, we left early and went out to eat for real food. Never had a housewarming party to go to but same with baby/wedding showers and 25/50 yr wedding anniversaries. Looks like you gotta be married to celebrate.
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  The fallout and the pain

  by lola28 in

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  i got an email back from an elder this morning and it looks like the boe is going to treat my email as a letter of disassociation.

  he said he was sad but would forward my email to the congregation that currently has my publishers card.

  this wonderful elder also took the liberty of calling a brother that im really close to and told him about my email, he also sent him a copy (this brother is not an elder!).

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  They are outing you to beat you to it. So they have the last word. If they did give a copy to your non-elder friend, he will see for himself you did not DA yourself. This may raise questions for him about how the elders are exercising their power. I would still talk to this friend and see where the two of you are at. Meanwhile, BEFORE they announce you are DA'd, you'll have to decide if you want to protest this move. If so, get an elder from another congregation involved to stop the process and involve a higher level - CO or DO. Otherwise, you'll only receive lies from your own hall in order for them to not be wrong - elders are never wrong.
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  Do you think it bothers elders, to know they can not control us now?

  by free2beme in

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  last summer i went to a wedding of a relative that is a witness.

  we're not disfellowshipped or disassociated, but have been inactive for about ten years.

  because no one mentions our history to others, very few members of our relatives congregations, even know we used to be witnesses.

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  Absolutely free2beme!! You can see the Borg police squinting at your badge. I remember being so thirsty one miserably hot district assembly day - everyone had to bring their own food and beverages but coolers weren't allowed in the center. I went to an "out of order" soda machine and put my money in. I had my husband with me because past experience has shown me I get less grief that way. Out popped my soda and these idiots, who had gathered and were watching closely, swarmed us. But they spoke to my husband, not me, and asked why he had disregarded the sign and asked if he could read. I had stopped wearing my badge years ago and my husband had taken his off. These idiots said they should confiscate the soda since it is against the convention policy to use the machines at the center and others would follow our lead (like the lemmings they are). I popped it open and began drinking as they spoke. I walked away several feet and let my husband see how right I was about the idiocy of pions with power.
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  1st post, but not new!

  by brother in

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  hello everyone, been browsing the forum for quite a while now(about a year) and decided its time to post.

  i'm male, just turned 36 on the first of april, i've been in a the process of fading for about two years now, not that easy having come from a witness family.

  i've been in doubt about this religion for most of my life, but finally built up the courage to stop going to the meetings, finding out now how big and beautiful this world is and realizing how much i missed out on "real" life!.....i started to fade about the time i was being pushed, yes pushed into becoming a ms. i did not want to have that duty, and i say duty, not "privelege" as they would say because thats what it is, a duty!

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  Welcome, Brother!!

  Your avatar looks like a pic from a JW publication I remember... Is it??? Just a wondering...
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  Life IN or Out of JW's suck

  by Smoky in

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  i've been keeping tabs on my old congregation for the last 3+ years (i dont even remember when was the last time i went to a meeting) it is not easy, i have joined a site named 'bebo' and have a handfull of so called 'friends' in my network.

  mostly from my old congregation, they seem to acknowledge my existence, but keep there distance.

  no one ever invites me to anything or to hang out.. time flies and things change.

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  Smoky - I was in the same place for years and years, even before I decided to offically be gone. I realized I was basically blackballed by the JWs and had no one outside... I had created my own hell. You need to make a decision and ACT on it. When I was brave enough to try making friends outside the JWs it was hard, it still is. Most are ones I've met through my boyfriend. I was so sheltered in the JWs and like other comments, programmed to be so critical on others and me. Trust me - it is worth the effort. My life is becoming fuller. I am learning what friends really are and that I I am worthy. You are worthy. Believe it and reach out. We are alway here on the Web for you too.
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  Oldflames predictions for the future !

  by oldflame in

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  you know something friends ?

  i watch a lot of news, i guess you can ay i am a news junkie of sorts.

  everyday something is happening in the world that seems to leading to one thing.

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  NOTTTT THE END!!! It could be SO MUCH worse.
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  Life after JW

  by Mr. Rebel8 in

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  as you all know from my introduction, i'm not a former jw.

  i was raised rc, though like ever good rc, i got to church no more than twice a year (christmas and easter).

  if there was a wedding or a funeral that year, i generally skip one or both of the holidays to boot.

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  I left the JWs over 2 yrs ago but was basically inactive for years. About a year ago I finally felt open to the idea of another religion but did didn't pursue it. My guy is a Lutheran. I've gone a few times. We talk religion. He will NEVER be a JW - THANK GOD!!! He's agreed to the ELCA Lutheran version in place of the stricter version he grew up with. Since I can take part without having to go through the confirmation classes and ceremony I like it and I don't feel pressurized. He would like to go more - but I am not ready for that - maybe someday I will be, maybe not.
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  Interesting Numbers

  by mckay in

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  this is a letter i recently sent to my jw kids.

  i thought the facts interesting:

  ...are you keeping up with the average?

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  Yes, JH! Love, not fear and threats.
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  Anyone do Charity work?????

  by whyamihere in

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  there is a few things that i am involved in, and have been for quite sometime.

  i feel that it is important to raise my children in this type of environment, so that they see outside of the box, and not be so closed minded on our surroundings.

  many are in need, and it is easy to close our eyes and forget.. my main charity work will always benefit children.. this weekend i have gathered many things from my house such as kids clothes, shoes, jackets...and i bought many blankets, cook ware, along with money etc... this will all go to easter seals.

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  I volunteered at area animal shelter for a while - guilt (JW induced and programmed) is still a factor. I would love to work with Habitat for Humanity or another hands-on project.